Over the years, over the many life experiences and over and over, I have drastically narrowed down my circle of friends. Treasuring the three to four good friends I believe is more meaningful compared to a wide variety of baggage-garbage friends. Not to say I am the aloof type or an introvert, I just feel pretentious friends are emotionally draining and who I let in my life will impact my happiness. Honestly, instead of wasting my time and money with unnecessary friends, I am happy with travelling (Vietnam/Cambodia, Dubai & Chiang Mai/Chiang Rai) to experience the wonders of the world and the other of course is valuing the moments with my other half (Travelling Solo When You Are Married).
With fewer friends, I am not disappointed I receive fewer special occasion invitations. As it is I have cut down, basically, such occasions especially weddings are now a pricey affair. Obviously, the way people spend lavishly, we are not spared from giving a substantial amount and let’s not also forget about spending on dressing up to fit into the glitz-glam occasion (Sarong Fashion Statement). Nevertheless, I wouldn’t mind going the extra mile for a wedding of meaningful friends and immediate family members. Family (Basil Lemonade Drink & Sujee Cake) I also know (his and mine) is rather complicated as it is the same story of flaunting success and wealth. But, still, still, still, family bond is ultimately important because compared to friends, family will never ever ditch you (Mr Roti Canai Kota Kemuning).
A family wedding (Saree Fashion Statement) of course is a colorful special occasion and with all the colorful family members who must be made to feel important, indeed tension, stress, joy, fun, and laughter as well. And now, let me welcome you to the recent wedding in my family. As the aunt, I knew the limelight will shine on me. Hence, I had to plan and prepare on what to wear for the three main special occasions. It started with checking my keep aside from the rest occasion outfits including the shoes, accessories, make-up and getting my man ready. Man you know right? Very straightforward. They can wear the same shoes, clothes and they are done. Women like me must make my fashion statement, must rise and shine for the occasion and must be tip-top.
For the first occasion – “Nalangu”/blessing of the bride, by right I should have worn a saree. But I opted for this tailor made RM120.00 from the nearby so called Indian boutique rather than aimlessly walking in the scorching heat from one shop to the other in Klang or Brickfields for the selection between the “come one come all free size” baggy-psychedelic ready-made suits. Those suits I can’t understand, such a waste of money. Even after alteration, I would have looked like a clown instead of setting my own fashion statement.
This black and red cotton suit well-tailored suit matched with the rose plastic clip and accessories from my existing collection truly was about prettiness. When I walked into the bride’s house, the ladies surely awed at me. Some thought I over did it whereas others wouldn’t comment and Indian ladies, where they believe in openly admiring a woman who had put effort to dress up? I’m sure you know what I mean.
As for following day early morning temple wedding, waking up at 5.30am to doll-up definitely was not my thing. I knew draping the saree with my eyes half open is going to be hell and rush. So, the best option was paying RM60.00 to convert the RM150.00 saree to a buckle up and fast on the go ready-made saree instead of putting my man in turmoil by asking him to help out. For the blouse, I spend RM60.00 and another RM80.00 for the chunky matching earrings and necklace. Actually, you know what, I could have saved on the accessories as I had some glamorous sets in my collection but I still gave in to temptation.
For the finale glamorous ballroom dinner on the same day, I think I went overboard by paying RM300.00 for the evening gown. Really, I did. If only I had more time in hand, perhaps I could have gone around looking for a more affordable outfit. Anyway, as I so liked the flowing gown which required just a minor alternation, no regrets. To match the gown and not to spend more, thankfully, I matched it with the simmering clutch, hair clip, earrings, choker, rings and shoes I already had.
For the make-up, instead of paying to be painted up which is quite a thing at the Indian beauty parlors, I am proud I did it my way. Nothing ravishing as I like to keep make-up simple, my eye dark circles camouflaged with a concealer and to wake up my always tired eyes, I applied a white shade over my lids, a light brown liner under my eyes and of course, two layers of mascara (Maybelline Big Eyes) to accentuate my eyes. For a sheer natural complexion, I started with a moisturizer (Olay Regenerist) and over it, sunblock, foundation (Laura Mercier Tinted) and compact powder (Shu Uemura Compact). To finish off, nothing like a bright lipstick (Lakme Enrich Lip Color & Rocking Red Lips). It will also be good if you have a facial or two prior (Skin18, Dr Morita & SOTHYS Premium Salon), well, says it all that a glowing skin does not need layers of colours.
I also didn’t want to spend on my hair. The rose clip was the easiest to put up my hair, for the bun, I tied up my hair and twinned the strings of jasmine flower around it and for the dinner, wash and blow by nava k. Yehhh!!
All in, it took me three weeks to get ready. Trust me, walking around the shopping complex for the gown was the worst killer as everything that looked pretty didn’t look pretty on me. The ready-made saree, thank god fitted me well but some of the ladies were not satisfied as something was not right with theirs. And an early morning wedding as said earlier is a mad rush with time and the three occasions in a row definitely drained me out. Other people get married, we also have to dance to the tune right?
So ladies, instead of getting stressed out, I suggest you think ahead on what to wear and we women in our fifties can make a graceful entrance for any of the special occasions.
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