Over the years, over the many life experiences and over and over, I have drastically narrowed down my circle of friends. Treasuring the three to four good friends I believe is more meaningful compared to a wide variety of baggage-garbage friends. Not to say I am the aloof type or an introvert, I just feel that pretentious friends are emotionally draining and who I let in my life will impact my happiness. Honestly, instead of wasting my time and money with unnecessary friends, I am happy with travelling (Vietnam/Cambodia, Dubai & Chiang Mai/Chiang Rai) to experience the wonders of the world and the other of course is valuing the moments with my other half (Travelling Solo When You Are Married).
With fewer friends, I am not disappointed I receive fewer special occasion invitations. As it is I have cut down, basically, such occasions, especially weddings are now a pricey affair. Obviously, the way people spend lavishly, we are not spared from giving a substantial amount, also, let’s not forget about spending on dressing up to fit into the glitz-glam occasion (Sarong Fashion Statement). Nevertheless, I wouldn’t mind going the extra mile for a wedding of meaningful friends and immediate family members. Family (Basil Lemonade Drink & Sujee Cake) I also know (his and mine) is rather complicated due to the same story of flaunting success and wealth. But, still, still, still, family bond is ultimately important because compared to friends, family will never ever ditch you (Mr Roti Canai Kota Kemuning).
A family wedding (Saree Fashion Statement) of course is a colorful special occasion. All colorful family members who must be made to feel important, indeed tension, stress, joy, fun, and laughter as well. And now, let me welcome you to the recent family wedding. As the aunt, I knew the limelight will shine on me. Hence, I had to plan and prepare on what to wear for the three main special occasions. It started with checking whats in store at home, eg; clothes, shoes, accessories and make-up, let alone getting my other half ready too. Man you know right? Very straightforward. They are done. Same shoes, clothes and all that. Women like me must make our fashion statement, must rise and shine and must be tip-top.
For the first occasion – “Nalangu”/blessing of the bride, by right I should have worn a saree. But I opted for this tailor made RM120.00 from the nearby so called Indian boutique rather than aimlessly walking in the scorching heat from one shop to the other in Klang or Brickfields to opt for “come one come all free size” baggy-psychedelic ready-made suits. Those suits I can’t understand, such a waste of money. Even after alteration, I would have looked like a clown instead of setting my own fashion statement.
This black and red cotton well-tailored suit matched with rose plastic clip and accessories from my existing collection truly spoke about prettiness. When I walked into the bride’s house, the ladies surely awed at me. Some thought I over did it whereas others wouldn’t comment and Indian ladies, where they believe in openly admiring a woman who had put effort to dress up? I’m sure you know what I mean.
As for following day early morning temple wedding, waking up at 5.30am to doll-up definitely is not my thing. I knew draping the saree with my eyes half open is going to be hell-rush. So, the best option was paying RM60.00 to convert the RM150.00 saree to a buckle up fast on the go ready-made saree, instead of putting my man in turmoil by asking him to help out. For the blouse, I spend RM60.00 and another RM80.00 for the chunky matching earrings and necklace. Actually, you know what, I could have saved on accessories because I do have some glamorous sets in my collection but blame it on temptation please.
For the finale glamorous ballroom dinner on the same day, I think I went overboard by paying RM300.00 for this evening gown. Really, I did. If only I had time to spare, perhaps I could have gone around looking for a more affordable outfit. Anyway, since I so liked this flowing gown which needed just a minor alternation, no regrets. To match the gown and to curb spending, thank god, it matched well with the simmering clutch, hair clip, earrings, choker, rings and shoes I didn't have to buy.
For make-up, instead of paying to be painted up which is quite a thing at the Indian beauty parlors, I am proud I did it my way. Nothing ravishing. I like to keep make-up simple. Eye dark circles camouflaged with a concealer and to wake up my always tired eyes, I applied a white shade over my lids, then a light brown under eye liner and of course, two layers of mascara (Maybelline Big Eyes). For a sheer natural complexion, I started with a moisturizer (Olay Regenerist) and over it, sunblock, foundation (Laura Mercier Tinted) and compact powder (Shu Uemura Compact). To finish off, nothing like a bright lipstick (Lakme Enrich Lip Color & Rocking Red Lips). Oh-well, a clean-clean skin skin does not need layers of colours.
I also didn’t want to spend on my hair. The rose clip was the easiest to put up my hair, for the bun, I tied up my hair and twinned strings of jasmine flower, and dinner hairstyle was nothing more than wash and blow by nava k. Yehhh!!
All in all, I took three weeks to prepare. Trust me, walking around the shopping complex for the gown was the worst killer. Everything that enticed me didn't go down well on me. The ready-made saree, hallelujah, fitted well but some of the ladies were not satisfied with their tailor. So ladies, instead of getting stressed out, I suggest you think ahead on what to wear so that we ladies in our fifties can gracefully grace any special occasion.